Are you really respecting your kid?

- November 02, 2019

# Parenting

Once when I went to my daughter’s school, I had chance talking to other mothers there. One particular lady came to me asking for parenting tips. She started complaining about the child that the child is not listening to her, not at all doing her works properly, scoring very low marks in tests, teacher complaining about her and so on. She was bursting out of frustration. I stopped her and asked what the age of the child was. She told she was talking about her younger daughter who was just 4 yrs old.

Most of us find difficulty handling kids in our family.

Am not gonna tell you anything new, but then reminding few things that you can follow.

1. Do not compare: Each child is created differently. They have their own ability, strengths and talents. Even with siblings, it is not good to compare. This pushes your child into a complex. Love all your children equally. Give importance to all your children equally. And comparing with others is not going to help, rather will create a negative imposition about themselves.

2. Don't give up on your child, ever! : All of your child's problems can be worked through with love, goodwill, and perseverance. With proper parental support, even the most troublesome teens can become amazing people. As positive attitudes are shown when you encourage your child, negative attitudes will also be shown out when you talk bad about him/her to others, especially in front of the child. And this negativity becomes the child’s habit and this will become the child’s character later. So never give up 👎 on your child 👶 in any situation.

3. Spend quality time ⏳: At most of the families, both the parent are pressurized to work. You don’t find time spending with child. If the child does not receive positive attention from family, they may choose to seek out negative attention. This is because negative attention is still 'attention', and any attention is better than being ignored. Remember to communicate with your child. Sit together at least for one meal a day.🍚

4. Give them the freedom to talk to you: Most of us already know the importance of communication. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully. By keeping an open line of communication, you’ll have a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem. Give chances for your child to discuss with you what happened and how he/she fells about something. You don’t have to provide solutions. You don’t need to have all the answers. Just listening them talk and asking clarifying questions will help them make proper decisions.

5. Be a Good Role Model: Young kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more cues they take from you. Before you lash out or blow your top in front of your child, think about this: Is that how you want your child to behave when angry? Be aware that you're constantly being watched by your kids. Model the traits you wish to see in your kids: respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, tolerance. Exhibit unselfish behavior. Do things for other people without expecting a reward. Express thanks and offer compliments. Above all, treat your kids the way you expect other people to treat you.